Introduction: Homophobia is kindled through media and public display of same sex relation in Uganda. Homophobia destroys: assured livelihood, security and enjoyment of sexuality. These at individual level translate as enjoyment of basics of life, safe passage in all situations and enjoyment of relations. This report attempts to show relationship between tolerable conduct, productivity, enjoying a relationship of one’s choice and avoiding homophobic tendencies in Uganda. This was limited to following 95 same sex practicing respondents (LGBT), 12 questioning persons, 5 bisexual women and 20 bisexual men in 14 urban settings for 3 years in Uganda .
Methods: 132 persons aged 13 years to 57 years at 14 urban areas: Mpigi, Kabale, Entebbe, Mukono, Mbarara, Masaka, Nansana, Mbale, Jinja, Kampala, Kawaala, Nakulabye, Makerere and Namungoona were followed from 2008-2010. Rent payments, seeking health care, re-filling sexual/reproductive health consumables, involvement in community activities, appearances at “gay” functions, job security, anecdotal stories, and references to activities involving same sex sexual relations were basis of collections of information used in this report.
Results: All 20 bisexual males ( 28-57 years) paid house rent for their partners in low-middle income areas. Twelve (12) had earlier supported their partners with loans to start off small scale businesses in food, hair, video/film/music businesses. Eight (8) paid school fees for their partners in higher institutions of learning. All 5 bisexual women had established homes, were influential persons in their communities. 3 of these were peers to younger same sex attracted girls. These girls seek relationship counseling from them. 37 girls had sought relationship counseling between July 2008- June 2009. A short questionnaire administered during re-fill of sexual/reproductive health consumables towards end of 2010 revealed that: 89 respondents ( 22-42 years) had stayed in their places of residence for more than 5 years. The least was 3 years without any interruptions or interferences from neighbours. All of them revealed that their neighbours saw them frequently hosting same sex persons who would spend nights or even weekends at their places. When asked about relations with gate keepers to hostels, owners of shops where they buy household commodities or motorcycle riders who frequently transport them, they affirmed a strong respectful relation where everyone minded their business. 10 who were questioning their sexuality had also revealed earlier same sex sexual debut at 12 years. These ones were still under parental care and had remained in schools. They revealed that they meet with people they knew were same sex practicing regularly. They also were frequent users of social networks like face book. Media outing was said to be the most feared, followed by blackmail and visits by members who were unrestrained in public display of same sex sexual relations.
Conclusion: There are safe spaces where same sex relations are tolerated in Uganda. The conduct of someone and unrestrained public display of same sex sexual relations are tinder that stoke the fires of homophobia. A productive life combined with caution ensures peaceful life for LGBTIQQ in Uganda.