Beirut's Growing Gay Scene Gets "Out" Online

Published: December 26, 2011

“It’s the only way for some people to socialize, especially for people who aren’t open to their family and friends and colleagues,” he says.

Rabee says he has encountered many people on Grindr who are married.

“A lot of married people go on those websites,” he says. “You have the option of putting your relationship status on Grindr, and a lot of people put married.”

Tarek, another gay Lebanese man who lives openly as a homosexual, also uses Grindr and Manjam to meet men.

“Mostly, it’s just to socialize and have fun,” says Tarek, who works as a graphic designer. “There’s something really exciting about Grinder because it shows you how close the other person is, so there’s just that sense of excitement when you know a person’s that close. That’s in comparison to the websites, when you don’t know if the other person could be in Tripoli.”

Tarek says he too has encountered people who aren’t open about their sexualities.

“Some tell me: ‘I’m discreet, people don’t know about me,’” he says. “Sometimes they’re married. It’s like an escape from society’s norms.”

According to Tarek, although he uses Grindr, the concept of it frightens him sometimes.

“It’s also scary, because sometimes you’ll be really close to someone else, and it’s really terrifying to know that you have a bunch of people around you who can track you through this application,” he says. “If there are people that are homophobic, they can use this application to track homosexuals.”

Living in the closet isn’t something Tarek advocates; although he says he understands how social pressures can force someone into living secretly.

“From the beginning, if you’ve lied to yourself about being discreet, then all the relationships you have will be built on that lie and if you get found out, you’ll have a lot more to lose,” he says. “But if you surround yourself with people that accept you, there’s less of a risk.”

Jamal , another gay Lebanese man who also lives openly and uses Grindr and Manjam to meet men, says that he tries to surround himself with people that accept him.

“I chose to be in an environment where I can be myself,” says Jamal. “I have the ability to do that in this country, because we do have a community. Most of the people I’m exposed to accept me for who I am.”

According to Jamal, most of the profiles on these websites don’t show faces or include any identifying information.

“Most of the people who use these programs don’t show their faces in their profile pictures because they’re not out of the closet,” he says.

Jamal says that for people who aren’t open, there aren’t many other options when it comes to meeting partners,

“There’s a road in Dekwaneh where gays go to cruise, called Freeway,” he says. “They meet up, talk, or go somewhere to hook up. But that’s not something that many guys would do. You hear stories about people going to hook up and getting robbed at knifepoint.”

Like any anonymous Internet forum, Jamal says that these websites provide users with opportunities to lie.

“It’s easy, because you can create a whole persona,” he says. “It doesn’t even have to be real. That’s never happened to me, but it’s happened to people I know.”

Simon warns users to be safe when meeting people on these websites. “When you use them, it’s best not to use face pictures and be careful about the information you give on the profiles,” he says.

Tarek says that gay social networking websites and applications like Grindr have forever changed the gay scene in Lebanon and across the globe.

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